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The Schaduwdansen study shows that 39% of dancers in the Netherlands have experienced transgressive behavior. Public discussions often focus on women, but the study also shows that a significant number of male dancers have been affected. Men often find it more difficult to navigate targeted support and advice routes. That’s why this page lists the organizations we know that offer targeted help to men seeking support and advice after unwanted experiences.
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Finding help after transgressive behavior

It is often difficult for men to seek help after an unwanted (sexual) experience, not only because of feelings of shame, guilt, or confusion, but also because many men don’t identify with the image of ‘the victim.’ Public conversations typically center around women who have been harmed, which means male perspectives are often left out. Prevailing ideas about masculinity — that you must be strong, in control, and never appear vulnerable — can make it even harder for men to acknowledge or name what happened to them as transgressive. This can lead to a deep sense of isolation, as if your experience doesn’t fit anywhere. That’s why it’s important to know: you’re not alone. Support is available that fits your experience.

MenAsWell

MenAsWell is the expertise center for victims of sexual violence in the Netherlands who identify as men or face similar challenges, including heterosexual, gay, bi+, trans, intersex, and non-binary individuals. They offer support, visibility, and education, with the mission to break down the barriers men face in seeking help and recognition.

  • Read more about MenAsWell’s work in the interview with founder Thomas Garrod-Pullar
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The Sexual Assault Center

The Sexual Assault Center (Centrum Seksueel Geweld)  is a place where victims of unpleasant sexual experiences, online or offline, can get the help they need: forensic, medical, and psychological support. A team of doctors, nurses, police officers, and other professionals work together to provide specialized care for victims of sexual violence.

Victim Support NL

You can turn to Victim Support NL (Slachtofferhulp NL) for emotional support. They assist with the criminal process and help you get compensation for damages. Appropriate help at the time you want it, in a way that suits you.

MIND

MIND is an independent social organization dedicated to a mentally healthier Netherlands and supports everyone who has or knows someone with mental health issues: young and old, clients and relatives, children and parents, mild complaints and severe problems. You can turn to MIND for all questions around mental health and for information, advice, and support, online, by phone, and across the country.

ARQ IVP

ARQ IVP provides psychological support for coping with stress, transgressive behaviour, threats or serious incidents within the dance environment. They have a national network of 45 therapists who understand the context of the dance sector. With short waiting times, you can quickly access the right support.

  • Get in touch with Rianne Peterson (Dans Veilig) for more information, to share your story, or to receive assistance with the appropriate referral.

Rutgers

Rutgers is the independent Dutch centre of expertise on sexuality. They gather data, conduct research, and develop tools and training materials focused on sexual and reproductive health. Through large-scale monitoring and thematic studies, they track sexual health trends and identify problems or at-risk groups in time.

Advice & Confidential Support

Have you experienced transgressive behaviour, witnessed it, or suspect something is wrong — such as bullying, discrimination, (sexual) intimidation or abuse? Talk about it. Support is available. Click on one of the infographics below to find the specific steps and contact points that apply to your situation.

Media

Would you like to learn more about transgressive behaviour, specifically in relation to men? The resources below offer in-depth information, personal stories, and context around the topic. They show how transgressive behaviour can also affect men — and the role men can play in addressing and preventing it.